As a family man, I can attest to the level of security that fathers and husbands attempt to provide to their loved ones.
As men, we are conditioned to not fully express our emotions. Society dictates the sentiment that it’s not always OK for us to cry. We have to also be tolerant of pain, and even to the extent of covering up the true magnitude of it.
Such seemed to be the case with Urban Meyer’s situation. The University of Florida head football coach recently admitted that he tried to hide his chest pains (which was actually attributed to a heart muscle defect).
“I have three children that mean more to me than anything. I have a football team that means more to me than anything. I didn’t want it to get out at all. We were very careful. I didn’t want anyone alarmed.
“And I think at some point, whether you’re a football coach, whether you’re a lawyer or whatever, you think at some point there would be a lot of respect for families involved and children and 11-year-old boys and 16-year-old girls and 19-year-old girls.
“Do what you have to do to protect them. If that means not coming clean with full details about something very personal, if you can’t understand that, then first of all, I think you’ve got to recheck yourself. And then second of all, I think at some point you certainly will understand that.”
What’s wrong with letting your family have the full play-by-play on what’s going on with you? I would think that’s the least that you could for them. After all, you are someone’s husband, father, son, brother…why keep them in the dark any longer than they have to be?
From a supporting standpoint, give your friends and family the opportunity to make a difference. I’m sure that Meyer has done many wonderful things for his loved ones. Sometimes it’s necessary to give others the chance to repay the generosity that you may have displayed to them at some point in your life. In this case, it may not even be about what Urban needs, but what a friend of family members needs to do to feel good about themselves.
When asked about the state of his health on Thursday, Meyer responded:
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